8 things you shouldnt do to a girl

[Jun-Watarase]

haha no no no, dont get me wrong this isnt the reason why every guy stops trying in a relationship.  I was just saying that some guys have stopped trying because of the under appreciation.  Of course there are the guys who stop trying because they got comfortable, but thats not all of them

Still, underappreciaton is another problem, in and out of relationships. It happens most of the time, but it's only truly a problem when the person does nothing to acknowledge and improve on it. A lot of guys tend to stop when they're comfortable, though. People are brought up with their gender roles somewhat defined in society (until their old enough to make the decision not to) so girls and guys tend to think different in terms of this-- but either way, it sucks when anyone in the relationship actually stops trying.

Trying for someone and feeling the desire to go out of their way to do something for someone they care for makes others feel that they have value to the person, that they're worth going through trouble to help. I don't mean waiting on someone hand and foot, but just doing a nice gesture once in a while to remind them that they care.

[cappeh]

yeah, that article is kinda like, urfdurfhurfhurf

#5 esp. bugs me...
"If he wants to come on to me, he needs to ditch his gross dress socks and gym clothes and make an effort. Otherwise he ain't getting any. Also, there is less foreplay and it's more routine, which I hate. After 7 years, a man's got to bust some new moves."

like wtf she makes it sound the like the guy has to do all the work to get sex and the girl gives it out when she feels like he's done enough to earn it. that is retarded.
granted i've never been in a relationship 7 years long, but keeping the spark alive is the girl's responsibility too. expecting the man to initiate everything makes girls look plain stupid.


and a lot of those complaints look like things that can be solved if the girl just tells her boyfriend/husband what's pissing her off. that's what i don't get about some girls either, they expect guys to just know what's going on in their heads.


and i don't care if my boyfriend looks at porn wtf. i look at it too. and finding his porn is funny. it's like a treasure hunt. :D

[Steve.Young]

yeah, that article is kinda like, urfdurfhurfhurf

#5 esp. bugs me...
"If he wants to come on to me, he needs to ditch his gross dress socks and gym clothes and make an effort. Otherwise he ain't getting any. Also, there is less foreplay and it's more routine, which I hate. After 7 years, a man's got to bust some new moves."

like wtf she makes it sound the like the guy has to do all the work to get sex and the girl gives it out when she feels like he's done enough to earn it. that is retarded.
granted i've never been in a relationship 7 years long, but keeping the spark alive is the girl's responsibility too. expecting the man to initiate everything makes girls look plain stupid.


and a lot of those complaints look like things that can be solved if the girl just tells her boyfriend/husband what's pissing her off. that's what i don't get about some girls either, they expect guys to just know what's going on in their heads.


and i don't care if my boyfriend looks at porn wtf. i look at it too. and finding his porn is funny. it's like a treasure hunt. :D

Wow a girl who understands that guys aren't mind readers. Holy crap Batman! Your a rare breed of female.

I had a discussion at lunch today with a large group of females, and it was mind boggling the responses were like "Their suppose to know" "It should be known" "He should have picked it up" etc. etc. I love them to death, but that stuff just makes me wanna go get some telepathic powers. I think that would be the simplest solution.

You actually won't find porn in my computers/bedroom/etc. ^_^

I feel a lot of angst in this thread.

[JTchinoy]

yeah, that article is kinda like, urfdurfhurfhurf

#5 esp. bugs me...
"If he wants to come on to me, he needs to ditch his gross dress socks and gym clothes and make an effort. Otherwise he ain't getting any. Also, there is less foreplay and it's more routine, which I hate. After 7 years, a man's got to bust some new moves."

like wtf she makes it sound the like the guy has to do all the work to get sex and the girl gives it out when she feels like he's done enough to earn it. that is retarded.
granted i've never been in a relationship 7 years long, but keeping the spark alive is the girl's responsibility too. expecting the man to initiate everything makes girls look plain stupid.


and a lot of those complaints look like things that can be solved if the girl just tells her boyfriend/husband what's pissing her off. that's what i don't get about some girls either, they expect guys to just know what's going on in their heads.


and i don't care if my boyfriend looks at porn wtf. i look at it too. and finding his porn is funny. it's like a treasure hunt. :D

You actually won't find porn in my computers/bedroom/etc. ^_^

You keep it in a safe? :o

[Steve.Young]

No, I honestly don't have any =p.

[cappeh]

well the girls you hang out with are silly D:

like really, sometimes i have no freakin idea why my boyfriend seems all down or whatever, so it's kinda dumb to expect anything different from him yknow.



and tell us where you keep your porn. i'll tell you where i keep mine
it's very secretly super hidden in a folder labeled NWS lololol

but then again i don't really save porn to fap to it, it's there to show other people in the first place!



and ho ho holy crap i had no idea until just now that you can make that huge bar at the top of the forums disappear 8UUU

[JTchinoy]

that reminds me!
a while ago when i was playing maplestory, we were talking about fapping. there was a girl in the convo with us and she asked what do girls do? since girls can't fap.
we asked the entire server through public messages and we got girls "flap flap flap"
:P

[Jun-Watarase]

As for the whole "mind reading" thing, I don't think that's a gender issue. Sometimes the things they 'should know' are common sense sort of things, but I don't think anyone likes it when what they refer to is some sort of unknown obligation we were supposed to already know, then have someone get upset over it. When you're not okay with something, either let it go if it's not a big deal, or say something when the timing seems right. After that, it's the listening part. I think all of this just falls under communication-- which is very VERY very very important.

I know there are some cases where it feels needed to avoid direct contact about it and give hints instead. If they're too subtle, then it'd be too easy to miss and would be stupid to get upset over. Say a girl gets upset at her boy not putting his cups on coasters, and the next time she hands him the cup, she puts it on a coaster as a hint. No one would notice that. It'd be her fault if she gets upset at him setting the cup back down on the table. Say that the guy wants to spend time with her girlfriend, but she's too busy playing games and reading her BL doujinshi shit. Hints like asking her if she's free, saying things like, "Hey. We haven't gone out in a while" and whatnot would probably be as affective as it gets with hints.

But no one is a mind reader. There are some things to be EXPECTED that you're going to do when you get into a healthy relationship-- communication, interaction in general, going out on dates, doing things together, splitting duties, having sex, being loyal, TRYING, and etc. but as for timing and what's specifically bothering you, it's no one's obligation to know exactly what and when to cater to your own needs.

And I agree that whoever wrote that article was pretty butthurt over how she was treated by her boyfriends. I know how it feels to go through some retarded relationships, but all that article is after the segment titles are whiny whining. Oh, and if women suddenly were granted telepathy? A good portion would kill themselves, while the other would kill others.

[FinalShadows]

that reminds me!
a while ago when i was playing maplestory, we were talking about fapping. there was a girl in the convo with us and she asked what do girls do? since girls can't fap.
we asked the entire server through public messages and we got girls "flap flap flap"
:P

Interesting.. however I do say that maplestory fails, none the less interesting convo lol

[Moonblossom]

that reminds me!
a while ago when i was playing maplestory, we were talking about fapping. there was a girl in the convo with us and she asked what do girls do? since girls can't fap.
we asked the entire server through public messages and we got girls "flap flap flap"
:P

I've always been partial to "schlick", personally. Flap sounds weird.

And that article is asinine. It's insulting to men and women. Not all of us expect insane levels of "effort" or whatever.

[cappeh]

ewwwww @ flapflapflap XFD

that sounds like something that'd come from a humongous vagina

[edendreams]

lol  some of those rules don't apply to me

Like the whole how much doed it cost thing *haha* i'm cheap I love saving money, but the one that makes me laugh is the one about the porn... lol hell I'd look with the guy but i guess it just makes me weird... (or boyish?)

I usually keep hentai and doujinshi on my other computer it's too easy to find it on my laptop so i don't keep any on it.

Heh I think there's a lot of girls these rules don't work for But the one rule i would have to throw in is

Don't be a coward

It bothers me when i see someone running away from their problems instead of facing them and resolving the issue. I think i can handle most other things but It annoys me the most if the guy i'm with can't handle problems

[JTchinoy]

ewwwww @ flapflapflap XFD

that sounds like something that'd come from a humongous vagina

some girls are just huge down there. :o

like a pair of wings.

[cappeh]

dude you just gave me the worst mspaint inspiration ever


SERIOUSLY DO NOT LOOK AT THIS REALLY I MEAN IT NWS NWS NWS
http://i292.photobucket.com/albums/mm9/imthekaki/wat.png

[Moonblossom]

Oh my god, that is the most awesome thing ever.

FLAPFLAPFLAP

[Jun-Watarase]

dude you just gave me the worst mspaint inspiration ever


SERIOUSLY DO NOT LOOK AT THIS REALLY I MEAN IT NWS NWS NWS
http://i292.photobucket.com/albums/mm9/imthekaki/wat.png

Hahahahahaha. That's... disturbingly cute.

[Steve.Young]

*Bangs head against table*

[G.I.R]

Ceiling Cat is watching you...  Flap?

Anyway, I'll respond with the Tenets of Leykis