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Title: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 19, 2008, 07:19:40 PM
so i'm a bit shy with meeting people...girls especially. so is it okay for a guy to come up to you and say hello at fanime? or is that something you girls get really annoyed by...

and just a general fanime question...which events are usually geared towards meeting people and making friends?

i'm a newbie californian here and hoping to make some friends while at fanime...
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: FinalShadows on May 19, 2008, 07:33:32 PM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 19, 2008, 07:19:40 PM
so i'm a bit shy with meeting people...girls especially. so is it okay for a guy to come up to you and say hello at fanime? or is that something you girls get really annoyed by...

and just a general fanime question...which events are usually geared towards meeting people and making friends?

i'm a newbie californian here and hoping to make some friends while at fanime...
I give kudos to you for doing what I can't do D:
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Dancing Lanza on May 19, 2008, 07:33:49 PM
lol~
I am pretty much on the same boat with you
so shy that I never had a gf >__<

but something I know might help you~
one of the panel for Fanime is "How to talk to girls" =D
I meant that's like the Panel for ppl like us!! yay ^___^
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 19, 2008, 07:45:08 PM
haha, i just hope some girls show up to that event...otherwise, it will get really awkward...
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Liars Dice on May 19, 2008, 07:52:28 PM
pwn and bwn
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: PyronIkari on May 19, 2008, 07:59:12 PM
What a bunch of idiots?

Question. How do you expect to meet/talk to someone, if you do not go up and say hi?

Going up and saying hi is fine, it's what you do AFTER that, that makes things good/bad/awkward/creepy.

Meeting people? Any. It matters what kind of people you want to meet. Generally, people go to ones... that they enjoy. I.E. they will go to a cosplay gathering for a series they enjoy...

Why does this thread scream and cry desperate and lonely, who is caring more about trying to meet a cute girl (of which he will screw it up bad with and/or become "a friend" to) over doing things the person enjoys.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: questionette on May 19, 2008, 08:13:29 PM
Dude, I'm sure a LOT of people that go to fanime, go to meet new people with the same interests as them.  So yeah, saying "hi" to someone isn't out of the question AT ALL, unless you're like, REALLY creepy or awkward, then I might run away...as would others...:D
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: billgoku on May 19, 2008, 08:18:00 PM
Just be yourself. lol You may get lucky and find someone that fits you just right.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Kaura117 on May 19, 2008, 08:45:04 PM
"Just Be Yourself" is the usual advice given- but let's be honest, folks, it's pretty shoddy advice. It's vague, it's nonsensical, and worst- it's inaccurate. One would hope that your "self" and personality can't be as easily and succinctly summarized as J. Random Background Character, with only one identifiable feature and behavioral pattern. One would hope, instead, that you are a complex, multifaceted character- basically, human.

The advice that most mean to give isn't "be yourself," but more accurately "show your best." If the aim is courtship, then the means of interaction is ultimately- and, admittedly, deceptively- simple: you are advertising your best traits. If the aim is merely friendly interaction, then what you're advertising isn't necessarily your best traits, but your overlapping traits- the things, subjects and obsessions you have in common.

Whether or not anybody buys it is something else altogether. However, much like with business, you run into less trouble if you advertise what you actually have to offer. False advertising, in relationships and in business, gets you into hot, scalding waters.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Nyxyin on May 19, 2008, 09:20:48 PM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 19, 2008, 07:19:40 PMis it okay for a guy to come up to you and say hello at fanime? or is that something you girls get really annoyed by...
It depends on a lot of other factors.  I'd be annoyed by someone (of any gender) saying hello if...
a) they smell bad
b) they say hello and then stand there nervously and do nothing else
c) they stopped an interesting conversation without having anything to add to the conversation
d) they're trying to hold a side conversation when I'm trying to listen to a live panel or if I'm obviously in a hurry to get somewhere else
e) they mumble and I can't hear them clearly
f) they ask for too many personal details too quickly
g) they seem more interested in me personally than anime, manga, video games, cosplay, or anything else at the convention

I'd be delighted if someone (of any gender) came up and said hello if...
a) they're clean
b) they speak clearly and offer interesting conversation
c) they are obviously enjoying the convention and want to talk about anime, manga, video games, cosplay, or something else related to the convention.

Things that people shouldn't ask me within the first hour of meeting me:
a) if I want or have a boyfriend, if I want to "go out", what my sexual orientation is
b) anything about me personally that isn't related to anime, manga, video games, etc.

Things that I would enjoy being asked:
a) what interesting anime-related activities are available locally
b) what food is available in the area
c) what I think about GAINAX
d) what I think about any of the Fanime events I just attended
e) what I'm playing on my DS
f) what characters I'm cosplaying and what series they're from

Girls are human too, you know.  We're not that different from boys.

Events that sound like they might help people meet others:
arcade, e-gaming, tabletop gaming, artist alley, dancing lessons, dealers room, maid cafe (or any food area), create that anime panel, fanime forum panel, how to be a host seminar, story story die panel, endless eva panel, video gripe panel, your anime sucks panel

I particularly liked Tabletop Gaming: I just went in and asked to learn a game, and random strangers would teach me, and we'd play together.  One time I went, someone was just randomly giving prizes to everybody in the room who was playing any game at all, so I got some neat buttons out of it.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: JTchinoy on May 19, 2008, 09:23:58 PM
Quote from: PyronIkari on May 19, 2008, 07:59:12 PM
What a bunch of idiots?

Question. How do you expect to meet/talk to someone, if you do not go up and say hi?

Going up and saying hi is fine, it's what you do AFTER that, that makes things good/bad/awkward/creepy.

Meeting people? Any. It matters what kind of people you want to meet. Generally, people go to ones... that they enjoy. I.E. they will go to a cosplay gathering for a series they enjoy...

Why does this thread scream and cry desperate and lonely, who is caring more about trying to meet a cute girl (of which he will screw it up bad with and/or become "a friend" to) over doing things the person enjoys.
beat me here i see.

should we point him to the talk to girls panel?
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Kaura117 on May 19, 2008, 09:26:39 PM
Quote from: JTchinoy on May 19, 2008, 09:23:58 PM
Quote from: PyronIkari on May 19, 2008, 07:59:12 PM
What a bunch of idiots?

Question. How do you expect to meet/talk to someone, if you do not go up and say hi?

Going up and saying hi is fine, it's what you do AFTER that, that makes things good/bad/awkward/creepy.

Meeting people? Any. It matters what kind of people you want to meet. Generally, people go to ones... that they enjoy. I.E. they will go to a cosplay gathering for a series they enjoy...

Why does this thread scream and cry desperate and lonely, who is caring more about trying to meet a cute girl (of which he will screw it up bad with and/or become "a friend" to) over doing things the person enjoys.
beat me here i see.

should we point him to the talk to girls panel?

I motion that we create a "Talk To Human Beings" panel for the socially challenged. Such as the above-mentioned.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 19, 2008, 09:28:41 PM
Quote from: Nyxyin on May 19, 2008, 09:20:48 PM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 19, 2008, 07:19:40 PMis it okay for a guy to come up to you and say hello at fanime? or is that something you girls get really annoyed by...
It depends on a lot of other factors.  I'd be annoyed by someone (of any gender) saying hello if...
a) they smell bad
b) they say hello and then stand there nervously and do nothing else
c) they stopped an interesting conversation without having anything to add to the conversation
d) they're trying to hold a side conversation when I'm trying to listen to a live panel or if I'm obviously in a hurry to get somewhere else
e) they mumble and I can't hear them clearly
f) they ask for too many personal details too quickly
g) they seem more interested in me personally than anime, manga, video games, cosplay, or anything else at the convention

I'd be delighted if someone (of any gender) came up and said hello if...
a) they're clean
b) they speak clearly and offer interesting conversation
c) they are obviously enjoying the convention and want to talk about anime, manga, video games, cosplay, or something else related to the convention.

Things that people shouldn't ask me within the first hour of meeting me:
a) if I want or have a boyfriend, if I want to "go out", what my sexual orientation is
b) anything about me personally that isn't related to anime, manga, video games, etc.

Things that I would enjoy being asked:
a) what interesting anime-related activities are available locally
b) what food is available in the area
c) what I think about GAINAX
d) what I think about any of the Fanime events I just attended
e) what I'm playing on my DS
f) what characters I'm cosplaying and what series they're from

Girls are human too, you know.  We're not that different from boys.

Events that sound like they might help people meet others:
arcade, e-gaming, tabletop gaming, artist alley, dancing lessons, dealers room, maid cafe (or any food area), create that anime panel, fanime forum panel, how to be a host seminar, story story die panel, endless eva panel, video gripe panel, your anime sucks panel

I particularly liked Tabletop Gaming: I just went in and asked to learn a game, and random strangers would teach me, and we'd play together.  One time I went, someone was just randomly giving prizes to everybody in the room who was playing any game at all, so I got some neat buttons out of it.


thanks, that was quite helpful!

Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: kuroi on May 19, 2008, 09:54:13 PM
Seconding Nyxyin's epic comment, which says pretty much everything I'd want to say, but a thousand times more coherent.

I consider lines a fantastic place to meet people; I mean, you're standing there, some of us are standing there by ourselves, or we're having conversations about anime, manga, or games, things which are easy enough to make a comment on, and instantly be included in the conversation. I can't count the number of friends I've made in line because I made a quick comment adding onto what someone already said (a lot of the time it was about events, or even the line itself [ahaha AX 06, "The Line That Never Ends" song we made up on the spot]), and then the conversation just kept going. Gatherings are also great, as you've got people all interested in the same series, and it's a great conversation starter to ask why someone chose a character to cosplay, or what their favorite character/episode/etc is and why. There are tons of opportunities to talk to and meet new people.

And definitely seconding the whole "clean and speak clearly" point. Mumbling is awkward; it's almost better to slip up (lord knows I have issues speaking the English language 85% of the time) and laugh it off than be afraid to talk, and if you reek, everyone, not just girls, are going to be wary when you try to talk to them.

A-ALSO, NYXYIN, OH MY GOD I LOVE YOU FOR MENTIONING MY PANEL <3 I hope you're going to be there! (I'm running Create That Anime, and with the exception of the fact that I might be rushing around since it's in the middle of the karaoke contest [which I'm participating in], I'd love to talk to anyone there ^^ And she's totally right; it's going to be tons of fun and spontaneous, and will involve the audience a ton, so there's plenty of opportunities for you to talk to people around you. Plus, with how silly my fellow hosts and I are, we're hoping to have a really comfortable and relaxed feel for the entire thing)
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jun-Watarase on May 19, 2008, 11:13:29 PM
Quote from: Kaura117 on May 19, 2008, 08:45:04 PM
"Just Be Yourself" is the usual advice given- but let's be honest, folks, it's pretty shoddy advice. It's vague, it's nonsensical, and worst- it's inaccurate. One would hope that your "self" and personality can't be as easily and succinctly summarized as J. Random Background Character, with only one identifiable feature and behavioral pattern. One would hope, instead, that you are a complex, multifaceted character- basically, human.

The advice that most mean to give isn't "be yourself," but more accurately "show your best." If the aim is courtship, then the means of interaction is ultimately- and, admittedly, deceptively- simple: you are advertising your best traits. If the aim is merely friendly interaction, then what you're advertising isn't necessarily your best traits, but your overlapping traits- the things, subjects and obsessions you have in common.

Whether or not anybody buys it is something else altogether. However, much like with business, you run into less trouble if you advertise what you actually have to offer. False advertising, in relationships and in business, gets you into hot, scalding waters.

I agree with this comment. Loads.

No reason to delve into it further, because that pretty much sums it up. What I suggest when meeting a stranger is taking a good look at the situation and finding something to use when meeting them-- you're at a convention, for a specific type of interest. Find something you share in common with that person, relative to where you are, what they're doing, what they're wearing, etc. Basically, find a common interest and start talking about it. But uh... I don't suggest just going up to a person and just spouting away. You don't want to seem awkward, and you don't want to scare people away. I'd imagine it'd be sort of tough for you, since you bothered making a thread on this, but Fanime is filled with many people who would like to believe themselves to be open-minded, especially in terms of meeting new people. From that, things should just snowball from there.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: quantbits on May 19, 2008, 11:17:30 PM
Don't be superficial and just target the people cosplaying DOA.

Talk to a girl because you like their personality or hobby or anime/series/etc.
It's just talking to another human being.

Second the vote for talk to humans panel, while I'm at it. ;D
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: NeoValkyrion on May 19, 2008, 11:54:15 PM
The running theory, of course, is that for your average male geek, your chances of running into a girl that shares your interests are much better by going to an anime convention. While this is true, there are a large number of other factors you have to consider.

Geek girls, much like werewolves, dragons, the babel fish, and other mythical creatures often conceal their true natures so as to blend in with their surroundings. This intriguing camouflage ability is noticeably lacking in the large majority of their male counterparts (and in fact ends up confusing them), and anime conventions are one of the few places where these specimens will reveal their true geekish tendencies and gather the interest of the common male geek. This results in many cases of what is often known as "stupid geek syndrome", as such a radical change in behavior deeply confuses the male geek.

Because geek girls have this camouflage reflex, however, it is more than likely that the specimen will already have a mate, thus turning any advances by a male geek into the equivalent of social suicide (and even in many cases where the specimen has no mate). As a result, male geeks are placed in a predicament where by seeking one of these newly revealed geek girls, they must refrain from pursuing this objective until a time at which such can be done without scaring the specimen away.

For the period of first contact with the rare specimen, which often means the entirety of Fanime weekend, a male geek must simply try to form common ground with the geek girl, most likely using the current subject matter (anime). The levels of success in this task depend upon the geek's intuition, the amount of time (too much contact could spare the specimen away), and eventually the ultimate goal of forming means of regular contact with said specimen by the end of the convention. Should this step be reached, the male geek may then have a chance at pursuing a relationship with the specimen over a period of time afterwards. Although this period of time is dependent on many factors, including but not limited to the amount of follow-up communication, the geek girl's life status, and other interests in the male geek's life, a chance at a relationship with the rare geek girl is now infinitely more likely than what it would be if the male geek succumbs to stupid geek syndrome.

This scientific theory is brought to you buy the ongoing study of the female creature by GWTMTTH (Geeks With Too Much Time on Their Hands). Please report all findings from experimentations and variations of this theory to the head research division. Thank you for your time.

NeoValkyrion
-Social Engineer


...okay, now I'm going to stop procrastinating with stupid humor and get to sleep.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Nick Zebra on May 20, 2008, 12:02:11 AM
Listen, strictly speaking, it's natural for boys to be shy of girls at some point. And hell, I know it better than most having 6 ex-girlfriends, and being shot down more than my fare share, I can tell ya, girls can be real jerks when it comes to being approached. But from what I've noticed, girls here rather enjoy the attention and are more than inviting with friendly chats or otherwise. And like they say, you can't lose until you play! (ultra cliche)

But really, being yourself just isn't going to cut it. Because if being yourself is low self esteem and doubting your vigor and ability to socially connect with people, then yourself isn't what you want to present. Instead try being a little more confident, carry yourself with a personality that says you are generally interested to make a intellectual, emotional, or even physical (if that's all you're interested in) bond. That way, even if you fail, you as a person can take pride in the fact that you gave whatever you had.

Always ask yourself, what's the worse that could happen? when approaching a girl, the answer is almost always "she doesn't like you" and if that's the case, so what?

I'm all for panels on talking to humans, but don't you think the first step is cultivating the human first? In a sense, lets figure out what we are offering BEFORE we figure out how to offer it.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: FinalShadows on May 20, 2008, 12:04:28 AM
Quote from: Nick Zebra on May 20, 2008, 12:02:11 AM
Listen, strictly speaking, it's natural for boys to be shy of girls. And hell, I know it better than most having 11 ex-girlfriends, and being shot down more than my fare share, I can tell ya girls can be real jerks when it comes to being approached. But from what I've noticed, girls here rather enjoy the attention and are more than inviting with friendly chats or otherwise. And like they say, you can't lose until you play!
I was shot down by 2 girls last year D:
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Kaura117 on May 20, 2008, 12:05:11 AM
Quote from: Nick Zebra on May 20, 2008, 12:02:11 AM
Listen, strictly speaking, it's natural for boys to be shy of girls. And hell, I know it better than most having 11 ex-girlfriends, and being shot down more than my fare share, I can tell ya girls can be real jerks when it comes to being approached. But from what I've noticed, girls here rather enjoy the attention and are more than inviting with friendly chats or otherwise. And like they say, you can't lose until you play!

More importantly, I think, you can't win until you play. The odds may be stacked against you, but at least you have an odd. 0.0000000000001% is 100% when compared to 0%.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: FinalShadows on May 20, 2008, 12:08:29 AM
Quote from: Kaura117 on May 20, 2008, 12:05:11 AM
Quote from: Nick Zebra on May 20, 2008, 12:02:11 AM
Listen, strictly speaking, it's natural for boys to be shy of girls. And hell, I know it better than most having 11 ex-girlfriends, and being shot down more than my fare share, I can tell ya girls can be real jerks when it comes to being approached. But from what I've noticed, girls here rather enjoy the attention and are more than inviting with friendly chats or otherwise. And like they say, you can't lose until you play!

More importantly, I think, you can't win until you play. The odds may be stacked against you, but at least you have an odd. 0.0000000000001% is 100% when compared to 0%.
Isin't that the chance of the lottery? o.o
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: ToshiX on May 20, 2008, 12:10:00 AM
ROFL
all you need is to be yourself and confidence
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Dancing Lanza on May 20, 2008, 12:12:44 AM
approaching alone is kinda odd tho =(
wat if it's two guys approaching 2 girls?? =P
just an idea comes to mind to make me feel less nervous
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Nick Zebra on May 20, 2008, 12:18:12 AM
Listen, you're not mounting an offensive. Numbers, stuff like that, just toss it out the window.

Work on what you are offering, then learn how to offer it, girls are interested, and they're just as freaked to come up to you, as you are them.

And now I am totally done with this thread, I've given my 3 years of psyche drop out a spin.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jun-Watarase on May 20, 2008, 12:21:13 AM
You have to pick up social skills and tact through EXPERIENCE. Chances are, it probably won't fare well with you in terms of results... either that, or you'll be stacked with people with lower expectations. But you need EXPERIENCE, whether you succeed or fail, without it, you don't really have anything. After a while, it should become natural. Actually, it should be natural. Until it is, just do your best and learn from there.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 20, 2008, 12:21:34 AM
i guess i'm not so much worried about being shot down. because no matter how cool you are, not every girl that appeals to you will like you back. what i'm afraid of is after i get shot down, seeing her again when she's with her friends. she whispers something to them and they look at me and start to giggle. laughing about how much of a loser i was for even trying. i don't think that's ever happened to me, or at least that i know of, but i can't imagine anything worse.

thanks to all for your insight. i think i have some good conversation starters now. to be honest, i don't really know TOO much about anime and all that jazz. i mean i like it and wish i knew more. so i hope i don't end up looking like a douche for asking some questions.

for the other guys out there, there is one bright side to look at. most of the girls at fanime don't really get too much attention in the "real world" because they don't conform to the standards set by society. they are a little too quirky, down to earth, and interesting than what most folks would consider a "hottie" at our age (ie size 0, big boobs, vapid, etc). so in a setting like fanime, i'm sure they enjoy all of the attention they are not always receiving. even if their intentions aren't strictly for romance. which is cooly by me...
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: cappeh on May 20, 2008, 12:24:50 AM
saying "hi" is fine... but make sure you have something to say after that. going up to a girl and talking to her just for the sake of talking to a girl is really awkward and kind of creepy.

example A:
a girl is standing around with a group of friends and you go up to her and say "hi".
that's not good. it's out of the blue and she probably knows you're trying to talk to her just to talk to a girl. it also puts her in a kind of awkward position cuz now she's torn between hanging out with her friends and talking to this random dude that just came up to her and said "hi" and nothing more. doing that will probably make her avoid you for the rest of the con.

example B:
a girl is waiting in line to play a game that both of you like. here, you can easily start talking to her about the game and maybe find more stuff that both of you are into, making things less awkward. maybe she might even want to talk to you! O__O


just remember:
-don't go into a conversation thinking that this will be your new potential girlfriend. 1) thinking that usually puts you in a better position to blurt out creepy or awkward things, 2) she might already have a boyfriend, and 3) talking to a girl just as a friend is infinitely more comfortable.

-just because she's talking to you or "smiles at you a lot" doesn't mean she wants to bone you. this should be common sense but for some reason a lot of guys think otherwise. :S
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: kuroi on May 20, 2008, 12:27:40 AM
You guys also have to realize that girls are shy too. We're just as nervous about approaching boys to talk as you guys seem to be about approaching us, and we're just as wary about freaking a guy out during a conversation as any guy would be about scaring us off. Personally, I like it when a guy has the courage to talk to me at con, and can be eloquent and genuine and nice. Mainly, just be nice and genuine. You'd be surprised at how easily we can tell when you're lying because you think it'll impress us.

You never know until you try. Also, re conversation topics: be sensible. Don't start talking about the hentai you watched last night, or about some other girl is really hot right off the bat. Questions can be wonderful, as long as they're not too personal at the beginning (e.g. start off with questions like their favorite anime/game/etc before asking what they like to do on weekends normally).
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 20, 2008, 12:34:25 AM
i guess the difference is that if a girl comes up to talk to a guy and you're not really into her, the worst you'll think is that she's kinda crazy. but that's cool b/c being crazy ain't so bad. on the flip side, a girl in that situation will think they guy is creepy. and that's infinitely worse than being crazy or anything else really. no guy wants a girl to think he's creepy, even if there is no chemistry in the first place.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jun-Watarase on May 20, 2008, 12:42:56 AM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 20, 2008, 12:21:34 AM
for the other guys out there, there is one bright side to look at. most of the girls at fanime don't really get too much attention in the "real world" because they don't conform to the standards set by society. they are a little too quirky, down to earth, and interesting than what most folks would consider a "hottie" at our age (ie size 0, big boobs, vapid, etc). so in a setting like fanime, i'm sure they enjoy all of the attention they are not always receiving. even if their intentions aren't strictly for romance. which is cooly by me...

You know, as harsh it may sound, this is very true for many girls I've encountered in the con-scene. Hell, it still holds true for guys to some extent, as well. Standards within anime geeks here and the like tend to be pretty low. Whether or not you feel you should take advantage of this is up to you.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 20, 2008, 12:50:18 AM
Quote from: Jun-Watarase on May 20, 2008, 12:42:56 AM
You know, as harsh it may sound, this is very true for many girls I've encountered in the con-scene. Hell, it still holds true for guys to some extent, as well. Standards within anime geeks here and the like tend to be pretty low. Whether or not you feel you should take advantage of this is up to you.

I don't think its necessarily that standards are low. Any type of convention is a gathering of people who have the same interests. It just so happens that people into anime are REALLY into it. And it reflects a large portion of their life and who they are. Since anime is a specialized interest, its not embraced (or known) by the majority of folks out there. So in the "real world", its seen as something strange and doesn't garner much attention except for weird looks. Instead of being something really really awesome. As it should be...
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jun-Watarase on May 20, 2008, 01:13:44 AM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 20, 2008, 12:50:18 AM
Quote from: Jun-Watarase on May 20, 2008, 12:42:56 AM
You know, as harsh it may sound, this is very true for many girls I've encountered in the con-scene. Hell, it still holds true for guys to some extent, as well. Standards within anime geeks here and the like tend to be pretty low. Whether or not you feel you should take advantage of this is up to you.

I don't think its necessarily that standards are low. Any type of convention is a gathering of people who have the same interests. It just so happens that people into anime are REALLY into it. And it reflects a large portion of their life and who they are. Since anime is a specialized interest, its not embraced (or known) by the majority of folks out there. So in the "real world", its seen as something strange and doesn't garner much attention except for weird looks. Instead of being something really really awesome. As it should be...

No. Having low standards and sharing the same geeky interests are two different things.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Nyxyin on May 20, 2008, 01:25:01 AM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 20, 2008, 12:21:34 AMto be honest, i don't really know TOO much about anime and all that jazz. i mean i like it and wish i knew more. so i hope i don't end up looking like a douche for asking some questions.
I personally think asking for more information about anime is a perfectly valid topic for conversation.  Don't worry about asking newbie questions - it's the fastest way to learn.  I personally love to introduce people to anime I like.  Besides, there are a whole lot of anime series out there, and it's just not reasonable to expect everybody to know about every last anime series out there.  Most people would be new to some percentage of anime out there. 
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Kaura117 on May 20, 2008, 07:08:44 AM
Quote from: cappeh on May 20, 2008, 12:24:50 AM
saying "hi" is fine... but make sure you have something to say after that. going up to a girl and talking to her just for the sake of talking to a girl is really awkward and kind of creepy.

example A:
a girl is standing around with a group of friends and you go up to her and say "hi".
that's not good. it's out of the blue and she probably knows you're trying to talk to her just to talk to a girl. it also puts her in a kind of awkward position cuz now she's torn between hanging out with her friends and talking to this random dude that just came up to her and said "hi" and nothing more. doing that will probably make her avoid you for the rest of the con.

example B:
a girl is waiting in line to play a game that both of you like. here, you can easily start talking to her about the game and maybe find more stuff that both of you are into, making things less awkward. maybe she might even want to talk to you! O__O


just remember:
-don't go into a conversation thinking that this will be your new potential girlfriend. 1) thinking that usually puts you in a better position to blurt out creepy or awkward things, 2) she might already have a boyfriend, and 3) talking to a girl just as a friend is infinitely more comfortable.

-just because she's talking to you or "smiles at you a lot" doesn't mean she wants to bone you. this should be common sense but for some reason a lot of guys think otherwise. :S

Bolding and italicising for emphasis.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jerry on May 20, 2008, 07:45:44 AM
wait, there are girls at the Con?
oh right.

aside from all the good points that the girls bring up. Put yourself in a situation where you find people with similar interests and make sure they give you a vibe where you could join in.

Sure you might be shy, sure you might be nervous, sure you've prolly never talked to real boys or girls outside of your anime and video games... but just give a shot and practice.

sometimes you might goof up. have an awkward moment or accidentally give off a 'weird' vibe but life goes on. try to learn from your mistakes, and again get a sense for what the people your trying to talk to are into. that way you have some idea how to get the conversation going.

simply put have fun, socialize with people you feel comfortable and if its a good click of friends, then exchange contact info and go from there.

or heck meet ppl here first and then meet in person?
yah, like that never works.  ::)

oh and randomly groping someone is NOT the way of meeting people. well... unless of course ur dressed up like Miroku or another randomly pervy cosplayer and again its done with the right circumstances...

"there is a ominous cloud overhead my dear maiden" *grope* "oh forgive me, tis this cursed hand i have---- care to bear my child?  ;)"

heh heh.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: JTchinoy on May 20, 2008, 08:14:15 AM
oh great, another "how to talk to girls panel" debate. :)

i'm not chiming in on this one.  :D
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Rei-Rei on May 20, 2008, 08:19:07 AM
What usually happens when a guy say something awkward to me, as long as it's not too creepy, I'll just move on and talk about something else.
But I mean I don't really mind either if they continue talking... Someone has to break the awkward moment.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jerry on May 20, 2008, 08:57:02 AM
yah, i doubt a fart is a good way to break an akward silence.

then again i know ALOT of people that use random sound effects when theyre too bored and they have nothing else better to say or do.

or just break out into a song or dance.

heck its an anime convention, anything can and WILL happen.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: kgHapa on May 20, 2008, 09:05:32 AM
Watch this, it will answer all of your questions....ever...in life:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Mp7Ikko8SI&feature=user
;D ;D
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: JTchinoy on May 20, 2008, 12:22:19 PM
how much does a polar bear weigh?

just enough to break the ice.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: fragiledreamer on May 20, 2008, 02:40:19 PM
heh - I'm a lesbian so I dont really care if guys come up to me.  Say hi all you want.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: questionette on May 20, 2008, 03:44:05 PM
Quote from: Atlus on May 20, 2008, 09:05:32 AM
Watch this, it will answer all of your questions....ever...in life:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Mp7Ikko8SI&feature=user
;D ;D


AHAHAHAHHAHAHA
I love the part when they're about to kiss

LMAO

This video is also kind of sad...because some guys ACTUALLY talk like that
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: shy-cosplayer on May 20, 2008, 04:52:53 PM
i sure wouldn't mind. I love meeting new people, but i'm too shy (hence the name) to go up to people!
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Kaura117 on May 20, 2008, 05:01:11 PM
Quote from: shy-cosplayer on May 20, 2008, 04:52:53 PM
i sure wouldn't mind. I love meeting new people, but i'm too shy (hence the name) to go up to people!

On that note, I think most of the advice so far actually applies- somewhat- to girls. Mainly the "go up to 'em and talk geek" part. Really, just as most girls don't bite (stressing the most- some folks. Jeez.), most guys aren't creepy sicko bastards liable to ambush you in dark alleyways. Life would be a lot easier if both sexes got over our socially-implemented hangups and just talked to each other- especially life for us geeks.

We're equals, yeah? Let's act like it, folks.  8)
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Dancing Lanza on May 20, 2008, 10:25:05 PM
Quote from: fragiledreamer on May 20, 2008, 02:40:19 PM
heh - I'm a lesbian so I dont really care if guys come up to me.  Say hi all you want.
in that case...
can I go say hi to you? since knowing you won't be interest in me, so I won't have to worry about how I act as much, maybe I'll be less nervous and get use to talking to girls without being nervous? =P
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: PK on May 20, 2008, 10:40:14 PM
Quote from: Kaura117 on May 20, 2008, 05:01:11 PM
Quote from: shy-cosplayer on May 20, 2008, 04:52:53 PM
i sure wouldn't mind. I love meeting new people, but i'm too shy (hence the name) to go up to people!

On that note, I think most of the advice so far actually applies- somewhat- to girls. Mainly the "go up to 'em and talk geek" part. Really, just as most girls don't bite (stressing the most- some folks. Jeez.), most guys aren't creepy sicko bastards liable to ambush you in dark alleyways. Life would be a lot easier if both sexes got over our socially-implemented hangups and just talked to each other- especially life for us geeks.

We're equals, yeah? Let's act like it, folks.  8)

hehe for me it's more of a phobia..not of just men but people in general..

at conventions it's the only place i feel a little more relieved..going to conventions is helping me overcome my fear
>.<
It just takes me a while to actually warm up to people..
But once i'm in my comfy zone i could talk forever

^^
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Thisiskat on May 20, 2008, 11:11:19 PM
you can talk to whomever, it's a con we are there for same reason, of course it's alright to say hello.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: rubymoonIII on May 21, 2008, 12:23:52 AM
Quote from: PyronIkari on May 19, 2008, 07:59:12 PM
What a bunch of idiots?

Question. How do you expect to meet/talk to someone, if you do not go up and say hi?

Going up and saying hi is fine, it's what you do AFTER that, that makes things good/bad/awkward/creepy.

Meeting people? Any. It matters what kind of people you want to meet. Generally, people go to ones... that they enjoy. I.E. they will go to a cosplay gathering for a series they enjoy...

Why does this thread scream and cry desperate and lonely, who is caring more about trying to meet a cute girl (of which he will screw it up bad with and/or become "a friend" to) over doing things the person enjoys.
dont listen to that poor lonley  guy

  heres my advice from an actual girl ( iam agirl... im a tomboy all my life ive hung around guys)
^_^

i think its easier at anime cons to talk to girls since they are into anime/ video games or j-rock
its easier to talk to a girl while oure doing something
A. int he dealers room  while shes looking at  something ( a plushie or a book or an object)

B. Video game room playing on the same machine as you

i actually met my bf at Fanime con  he just came up and talked to me  first we were friends tho
so dont  worry guys  if the first girl doesnt bite try again later :3


Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 21, 2008, 12:46:40 AM
thanks for the nice and encouraging post!
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: rubymoonIII on May 21, 2008, 01:02:46 AM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 21, 2008, 12:46:40 AM
thanks for the nice and encouraging post!
ur welcome i you need someone to talk to look me up at fanime i'll be wearnhttp://www.gelbooru.com/index.php?page=post&s=view&id=232022 (http://www.gelbooru.com/index.php?page=post&s=view&id=232022) that cosplay on friday
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: kgHapa on May 21, 2008, 07:30:47 AM
Quote from: questionette on May 20, 2008, 03:44:05 PM
Quote from: Atlus on May 20, 2008, 09:05:32 AM
Watch this, it will answer all of your questions....ever...in life:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Mp7Ikko8SI&feature=user
;D ;D


AHAHAHAHHAHAHA
I love the part when they're about to kiss

LMAO

This video is also kind of sad...because some guys ACTUALLY talk like that
glad you liked it :D theres a part 2 as well, also quite hilarious lol
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jerry on May 21, 2008, 07:36:26 AM
Quote from: rubymoonIII on May 21, 2008, 12:23:52 AM
dont listen to that poor lonley  guy

heres my advice from an actual girl ( iam agirl... im a tomboy all my life ive hung around guys)
^_^

i think its easier at anime cons to talk to girls since they are into anime/ video games or j-rock its easier to talk to a girl while youre doing something:

A. int he dealers room  while shes looking at  something ( a plushie or a book or an object)

B. Video game room playing on the same machine as you

i actually met my bf at Fanime con  he just came up and talked to me  first we were friends tho so dont  worry guys  if the first girl doesnt bite try again later :3

Usually people also casually meet on the main concourse, like during cosplay gatherings... waiting in line or sometimes the accidental damsel in anime distress situation.

or the occasional accidental mistaken identity and super running glomp of happy doom....

as for girls "biting" some guys are into it... others are probably afriad run for the hills...

or me... if i see to much cleavage i LITERALLY get nosebleeds.
yes. it DOES happen.   :P
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: fragiledreamer on May 21, 2008, 11:32:21 AM
Quote from: Dancing Lanza on May 20, 2008, 10:25:05 PM
Quote from: fragiledreamer on May 20, 2008, 02:40:19 PM
heh - I'm a lesbian so I dont really care if guys come up to me.  Say hi all you want.
in that case...
can I go say hi to you? since knowing you won't be interest in me, so I won't have to worry about how I act as much, maybe I'll be less nervous and get use to talking to girls without being nervous? =P

Heh - sure - I'll NOT be cosplaying on friday... but i'll be the one in black fishnet armbands... but I'll be Gaara Sat and Sun... and normal again on monday.  Say hi if you want... I'm blonde - *waves*
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: rubymoonIII on May 22, 2008, 10:11:03 PM
*waves back*
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: shy-cosplayer on May 22, 2008, 10:39:48 PM
Say hi to me! Ill be wearing a black lace dress tomorrow and holding a black and orange purse! =]
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: PyronIkari on May 22, 2008, 11:17:55 PM
Quote from: rubymoonIII on May 21, 2008, 12:23:52 AM
dont listen to that poor lonley  guy

  heres my advice from an actual girl ( iam agirl... im a tomboy all my life ive hung around guys)
^_^

i think its easier at anime cons to talk to girls since they are into anime/ video games or j-rock
its easier to talk to a girl while oure doing something
A. int he dealers room  while shes looking at  something ( a plushie or a book or an object)

B. Video game room playing on the same machine as you

i actually met my bf at Fanime con  he just came up and talked to me  first we were friends tho
so dont  worry guys  if the first girl doesnt bite try again later :3

WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT a second. Basically... you said, don't listen to me, when what I said isn't too much different from what you said. You're basically telling people... not to listen to you either.

Me... lonely? hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahaahhahahaahhahahahahahahahahahha
hahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

ahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah

I currently live with my girlfriend.

I've had no trouble finding a girlfriend the majority of my life. I've never had trouble talking to girls, whether it be to befriend them, or to pursue a relationship with them.

Oh, but you have a vagina, so that means, you automatically know more, except, you contradict yourself by saying you're a tomboy. So your opinion goes out the window since you're not the "average girl" anymore, and are now an exception to the rule.

But it's not like your post actually gave any useful information anyways.

It's not that hard, approach girl... say hi, then make a comment appropriate for the situation. Carry a conversation from there, see where it leads.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Kazuko on May 22, 2008, 11:37:52 PM
I have a vagina  ;D

btw I agree with Mikey, Just cause your a tomboy dosent mean your an AVERAGE GIRL

I ammm tooo girly
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: jeans on May 23, 2008, 12:26:33 AM
Well papertiger, unless you are a guy named Eric who chatted me up on the way home from Fanime tonight on the light rail, I think you'll do fine.

Here's what Eric did wrong:
-he asked too many personal questions right off the bat (have you lived in San Jose long, where are you going, who do you live with, can I get your number?)
-he didn't pick up on the cues from me that I obviously didn't want to talk.

So basically, stick to "neutral" topics (anime, manga, etc. at the con, maybe likes/dislikes if you notice she has a pin on her bag of your favorite band or whatnot). Pay attention to her. If she answers you but doesn't ask a question back, or sticks to simple "yes" or "no" answers, then back off. If she seems like she wants to have a conversation with you, then continue on. Also know when to stop. If she keeps checking her cell phone or looking at her schedule, she probably wants to stop talking to you and go elsewhere. Smile, say it was nice to meet her, and that you hope you'll see her around. If you get a good vibe from her, maybe she'll ask for YOUR number! Good luck!
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: kgHapa on May 23, 2008, 09:50:31 AM
Has anybody tried:
"Hows your day going?"
Thats a good one rofl
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: PK on May 23, 2008, 12:17:57 PM
^
you may get the whole ramble from how they got up that morning, to what they ate..and all that jazz

XD

I asked another girl that once and it was a never ending on how her trip was since she got here
She never left a detail out
XD
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: ororo on May 24, 2008, 02:18:55 PM
This is all really dumb because

I'm a girl, and I pretty much walk around thinking about sex all the time, and wishing guys would approach me more often so I could you know

have sex

all the time


Pretty much everywhere I go I'm checking out guys and thinking about having sex with them.   

So please get over your fears and approach girls so we can all have sex.

By the way I do my fair share of approaching guys, but it's way better when the guy approaches me, for whatever reason...   

If a girl makes repeated eye contact with you from across a room chances are she probably thinks you're hot.  Or would at least talk to you.   

And if a girl thinks you're creepy, screw her anyways.  I have never thought to myself "damn that dude is CREEEEEPY"    Unless he did some weird shit like follow me home or w/e.    You only live once... 

"People are just people, they shouldn't make you nervous"   

I have to tell myself that a lot when I get worried about someone judging me; really there are too many people in the world to be afraid of someone thinking negatively of you.  Chances are for each person that dislikes you, there's one out there that likes you :)  You'll never know unless you meet them !
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Reipen on May 24, 2008, 03:35:23 PM
Quote from: ororo on May 24, 2008, 02:18:55 PM
This is all really dumb because

I'm a girl, and I pretty much walk around thinking about sex all the time, and wishing guys would approach me more often so I could you know

have sex

all the time


Pretty much everywhere I go I'm checking out guys and thinking about having sex with them.   

So please get over your fears and approach girls so we can all have sex.

By the way I do my fair share of approaching guys, but it's way better when the guy approaches me, for whatever reason...   

If a girl makes repeated eye contact with you from across a room chances are she probably thinks you're hot.  Or would at least talk to you.   

And if a girl thinks you're creepy, screw her anyways.  I have never thought to myself "damn that dude is CREEEEEPY"    Unless he did some weird shit like follow me home or w/e.    You only live once... 

"People are just people, they shouldn't make you nervous"   

I have to tell myself that a lot when I get worried about someone judging me; really there are too many people in the world to be afraid of someone thinking negatively of you.  Chances are for each person that dislikes you, there's one out there that likes you :)  You'll never know unless you meet them !

Reasons People may not be doing this:

For myself personally, I'm older than 18.... so anyone younger is a BIG NO NO......

And at this con, It's like everyone is 16 (or looks so).....

Secondly, you must be one of the horniest women i've ever heard of.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 24, 2008, 07:44:31 PM
well for me its a bit more complicated. i'm brown (read as indian), have long black hair and a goatee. i've had some interesting experiences here in california due to my race which makes me even more apprehensive to approach people. i'm originally from dallas and believe it or not, never ran into anything like that there.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: PK on May 24, 2008, 07:57:03 PM
Quote from: papertiger11 on May 24, 2008, 07:44:31 PM
well for me its a bit more complicated. i'm brown (read as indian), have long black hair and a goatee. i've had some interesting experiences here in california due to my race which makes me even more apprehensive to approach people. i'm originally from dallas and believe it or not, never ran into anything like that there.
Dallas..Texas???
o.o
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: papertiger11 on May 24, 2008, 08:05:59 PM
yep, the conservative south...
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: PK on May 24, 2008, 08:07:11 PM
LOL
well I live in Fort Worth
small world isnt it
:3
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Squeeky_Moonkin on May 24, 2008, 09:14:57 PM
I think it all depends. If the guy sincerly wants to be social and say hi, I am all done for that. Its the idiots who have nothing better to do and just act extremely retarded afterwards. Just introducing yourself is harmless ^_^
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Siatsu on May 24, 2008, 09:34:39 PM
I think it comes down to "reading" people and who is approachable and who is not.

Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: nf33 on May 24, 2008, 09:56:27 PM
Quote from: Siatsu on May 24, 2008, 09:34:39 PM
I think it comes down to "reading" people and who is approachable and who is not.



very true but that can be very very hard for some of us
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: ultrazyn on May 25, 2008, 12:17:11 PM
Quote from: ororo on May 24, 2008, 02:18:55 PM
This is all really dumb because

I'm a girl, and I pretty much walk around thinking about sex all the time, and wishing guys would approach me more often so I could you know

have sex

all the time


Pretty much everywhere I go I'm checking out guys and thinking about having sex with them.   

So please get over your fears and approach girls so we can all have sex.

By the way I do my fair share of approaching guys, but it's way better when the guy approaches me, for whatever reason...   

If a girl makes repeated eye contact with you from across a room chances are she probably thinks you're hot.  Or would at least talk to you.   

And if a girl thinks you're creepy, screw her anyways.  I have never thought to myself "damn that dude is CREEEEEPY"    Unless he did some weird shit like follow me home or w/e.    You only live once... 

"People are just people, they shouldn't make you nervous"   

I have to tell myself that a lot when I get worried about someone judging me; really there are too many people in the world to be afraid of someone thinking negatively of you.  Chances are for each person that dislikes you, there's one out there that likes you :)  You'll never know unless you meet them !

YO WHERE U BE STAYIN AT?
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Miss Genesis on May 26, 2008, 01:44:26 PM
Well, I personally am not insulted at all by this. :)
Confidence is very attractive! keep that in mind! :D

the only reason I'd be insulted is if a guy came up and asked me out for coffee or something before I even knew what his name is.*
Or if you were staring at her clevage or ass or something. >.> **

Keep in mind that confidence is attractive, but politeness is key. :)


*this DID happen. several times. lol.
**this also happens. often. v.v
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Lactose on May 26, 2008, 02:11:05 PM
Quote from: ultrazyn on May 25, 2008, 12:17:11 PM
Quote from: ororo on May 24, 2008, 02:18:55 PM
This is all really dumb because

I'm a girl, and I pretty much walk around thinking about sex all the time, and wishing guys would approach me more often so I could you know

have sex

all the time


Pretty much everywhere I go I'm checking out guys and thinking about having sex with them.   

So please get over your fears and approach girls so we can all have sex.

By the way I do my fair share of approaching guys, but it's way better when the guy approaches me, for whatever reason...   

If a girl makes repeated eye contact with you from across a room chances are she probably thinks you're hot.  Or would at least talk to you.   

And if a girl thinks you're creepy, screw her anyways.  I have never thought to myself "damn that dude is CREEEEEPY"    Unless he did some weird shit like follow me home or w/e.    You only live once... 

"People are just people, they shouldn't make you nervous"   

I have to tell myself that a lot when I get worried about someone judging me; really there are too many people in the world to be afraid of someone thinking negatively of you.  Chances are for each person that dislikes you, there's one out there that likes you :)  You'll never know unless you meet them !

YO WHERE U BE STAYIN AT?

post 1, look at that.

ororo you better watch out, you've got guys making accounts just to talk to you.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: SheikOfTwili on May 26, 2008, 02:12:49 PM
><;

I had many come up to me...especially as Dizzy....erm,.


But..as long as you don't ask for a kiss..I think us girls should be fine.. <_<;

Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Mango Bunny on May 27, 2008, 01:06:04 AM
Be nice. Some guy went up and asked if I wanted a bite to eat. I was impressed because he wasn't that dude staring at me for like 4 hours. Don't be that dude.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Reinna on May 27, 2008, 08:32:45 AM
*casually chatted with random guys throughout most of Fanime, but at one point ended up with kind of a creepy stalker type person that was very difficult to scrape off*

DO:
Talk to me about what kind of anime/games/manga I'm cosplaying, or what interests me.
Chat with me about the abovewhile I'm on my staff shift up front, or waiting in line, waiting for an elevator, etc.
Ask me for a picture.
Ask me about a panel, masquerade, what I think about this con, or conventions in general.

DO NOT:
Stare creepily at me.
Ask me where I live, what school I go to, whether or not I have a boyfriend, or other personal information unless we've been chatting and having a good time for a while.
Follow me around after meeting me for all of two minutes.
Follow me around con, and to my hotel.
Continue to try and strike up a conversation when I've been trying to ignore you, and have already casually dropped the fact that I already have a boyfriend, kthx.
Force me to threaten to call SOS on you.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: rubymoonIII on May 27, 2008, 12:53:05 PM
this weekend was good i got chatted up by guys anfd gals
:3 i got hit on by a hawt  drunk asian guy
:3:3 and for the record.. more :3
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Kaura117 on May 27, 2008, 05:21:37 PM
Quote from: Lactose on May 26, 2008, 02:11:05 PM
Quote from: ultrazyn on May 25, 2008, 12:17:11 PM
Quote from: ororo on May 24, 2008, 02:18:55 PM
This is all really dumb because

I'm a girl, and I pretty much walk around thinking about sex all the time, and wishing guys would approach me more often so I could you know

have sex

all the time


Pretty much everywhere I go I'm checking out guys and thinking about having sex with them.   

So please get over your fears and approach girls so we can all have sex.

By the way I do my fair share of approaching guys, but it's way better when the guy approaches me, for whatever reason...   

If a girl makes repeated eye contact with you from across a room chances are she probably thinks you're hot.  Or would at least talk to you.   

And if a girl thinks you're creepy, screw her anyways.  I have never thought to myself "damn that dude is CREEEEEPY"    Unless he did some weird shit like follow me home or w/e.    You only live once... 

"People are just people, they shouldn't make you nervous"   

I have to tell myself that a lot when I get worried about someone judging me; really there are too many people in the world to be afraid of someone thinking negatively of you.  Chances are for each person that dislikes you, there's one out there that likes you :)  You'll never know unless you meet them !

YO WHERE U BE STAYIN AT?

post 1, look at that.

ororo you better watch out, you've got guys making accounts just to talk to you.

Just as a friendly reminder, ladies, XY chromosome sets aren't usually the mental impairment that ultrazyn's presence seems to suggest it is...
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: rubymoonIII on May 29, 2008, 04:19:10 PM
lol   :D
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: ultrazyn on June 21, 2008, 12:36:05 AM
i was kidding...but not really tho =D

i got a gf ^_^
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Poacher on July 02, 2008, 06:15:04 PM
As one of a dying breed (Trigun Cosplayers) I make a point of talking to people when i stop for photo breaks, be it with pro photographers or your average fangirl with a point&click.  I've got a girlfriend, am definatly not shy, and dont have a problem with meeting new people.  Even so, i feel that i can still inspire people (even after the Con) to go out and strike up conversation.  If someone asks to take your picture, strike your pose.  When the pictures are done start to talk, ask if they're a fan of the show, who they're favorite character is, what other series they watch, that sort of deal.  for three years now i have been grouping up with a pair of guys dressed as Light and Dark Vash the Stampede (Jeremy and Will respectively) and would never have developed a friendship with them outside of Fanime if i hadn't clung to them all weekend, taken photoes, eatten lunch, rocked out at the rave, and just generally shot the breeze with them.  Another awesome thing about Fanime is the size.  It isnt like ComicCon where the crowds resemble those of Disneyland.  Each year i start to reqognise more and more faces from the previous years.

That whole deal with "be yourself" doesn't make any sense to me.  We all come to Fanime to be someone DIFFERENT.  If we went as ourselves it wouldn't be nearly as fun. I'm Steve, but i don't go to Fanime as Steve, at Fanime i am Nicholas D. Wolfwood.  Different is what gets attention, Fanime is all about being who you WANT to be.


And on a side note:

I actully spent my first year at Fanime trying to pick up chicks.  then i realise that i was at an Anime Convention....
Then i thoug back on all the times i had successfully picked up a girl at an anime con....
then realised i never had....

Cons are for making friends, not "fuck-buddies"
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Jerry on July 03, 2008, 09:53:31 AM
Quote from: Poacher on July 02, 2008, 06:15:04 PM
Cons are for making friends, not "fuck-buddies"

Quoted for Emphasis.
But to each is own. Some people like having a liftstyle where well...
they like to bump uglies with really RIDICULOUSLY good looking people...
I suppose you cant blame them.

Nothing wrong with making new friends, but I guess what you do with them behind closed doors in private business.... :P

A fanboy could dream/imagine tho.  :D
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: Steve.Young on July 04, 2008, 12:18:51 PM
some weird ass stuff was said in this thread....holy crap.
Title: Re: a question for the ladies...
Post by: XpHoBiaX on July 19, 2008, 12:46:21 AM
Yes. Crap is Holy here. @_@