I was wondering if I was the only one who, during the last day, had no one to hang out with, no one to talk to, nowhere to go? I tried a means of meeting some people here and I was up til 5am in one spot waiting to see if anyone would come chat it up with me.
I'm just hoping I wasn't the only one who felt alone and depressed. =/ the whole event kicked ass, until Sunday night where I just had no one to be with.
Maybe you should have attened "How to talk to girls"
Or it's just a sign that fanimecon was a blast!
I'm always a bit lonely, i've seriously wanted to go to "How to talk to girls" a bunch of times, but it always conflicts with something that has robots....
....seriously?
All it takes is a "hello" and you've just met a BRAND NEW NEVER BEFORE SEEN PERSON! 95% of people that are at fanime want to meet new people too, but they aren't always going to go out of their way to reach out to you...take some initiative.
I attended fanime alone, but wasn't alone when I didn't want to be. It doesn't take that much effort.
While there is quite a bit of fear of meeting new people, remember, If it doesn't work out talking to them, you only have until the next fanime where you don't have to awkwardly walk into them again.
Besides that, realistically fanime is a social event. Even with people who come in large groups, one goal for a majority of individuals is to run into others to meet. Be it one from the hug crowd that lines the way to the dealers hall, to just a few people playing a board game. So as long as they aren't in transit or are fairly static where they are, striking up a conversation is a fine idea if your feeling a bit ronery.
I must agree. People at the con, without fail, are always friendly. Whether it's someone starting up a conversation in an over-packed elevator or a hug on the concourse, most of the people you encounter would be happy to chat, even if it turns out you don't have particularly similar interests. But hell, at an anime con, the odds of that are reduced dramatically. Sorry you felt lonely, though. I was personally surprised to still see so many people around on Monday. Last year it felt like a ghost town by checkout...
I tried to attend the several nerd-talk-to-girls panels but they were always full.
I was going through a fit of depression on Sunday primarily because I had some 15yr old mock me for still being single; at the time it didn't bug me because it was all in good fun while waiting for the Pokemon tournie to start, but I think that fact, losing the tournie, then the simplicity of not having any other event to go to to (totototo) keep my mind off it, everything seemed to just pool up and hit me.
Went back to my hotel to kill some time and ended up lost in thought for five hours in bed, moping. A friend came by and got me back into the fold of things, we went to go get something that would induce happiness, but it didn't work and just seemed to have the opposite effect, keeping me awake until 5am in the dining area.
I wasn't quite sound of mind and posted on Craigslist on the random chance of someone even checking.
So yeah, I had an awesome time at Fanime until things went downhill, I wasn't myself Sunday/Monday. x.x;
I partook of many hugs and conversations with random people, because yeah, Fanime was a gathering of my people; another possible reason I may have gotten down was because the last Fanime I attended was in the early-mid nineties. I was so not used to big groups of people, so I think I may have just had an anxiety attack or something.
Can't wait to come back next year though, thinking of going as child-eating Totoro. =D
This was my first Fanime and I went alone. I didn't even have roommates since I like having a room to myself. And I knew no one and really didn't go out of my way to talk to people. (I was more in observation mode) And I never felt lonely.
The nice thing about big gatherings is that you can be as social or anti-social as you want. There's so many people and activities going on that the choice is really up to you.
To the OP, it sounds like your depression was more of a personal issue with self-esteem or life issues and not really con-related. I hope you feel better at the next con, but that you choose to enjoy it more and not dwell on things that get you down.
Maybe you should staff in a department that sticks in a group, like infodesk or something. Usually you can make friends with a lot of people if you stay there for a while. ^^
I know that if in Reg (haha) and either worked in at-con or printing, it's super easy to make friends there. :D
And if in doubt, always volunteer if you have extra time on your hands and find yourself feeling lonely. ^^
I staff cos I don't really like Anime but I love to meet new people and see old friends.
I get a little bummed when I am aimlessly wandering by myself. :'(
I may join rovers, or staff so I can avoid downtimes like that.
Although this year, I couldn't avoid being recognized by my hair. (dreads FTW!)
Working on staff or volunteering is a great way to meet people, and I highly recommend it. Also, feel free to just say hi if it looks like we're not terribly busy. It's always nice to take a short break from staring at badges all day and meet a congoer for a few seconds.
And yes, XpHoBiaX is very, very recognizable. I only saw one or two odd pictures from you on the forums, but every time I passed by, I thought "Hey, I know that person. They're on the forums". Except for about the 20th time I passed by at which point I thought, "Hey, I know that person. I really need to stop thinking the same things in my head over and over."
I was a li'l lonely too, as I was just by myself all thru the con of friday and sunday (cousin came over saturday) but oh wells. My first Black and White ball attendance was nice, but I'm not too overly happy with it, especially that it was hard to ask guys/girls to dance with me (im a girl) plus I sucked at the dancing part, especially if you only attended 2 of the dance lessons out of the other dance lessions =_=
I <3d the BWB. Went with friends and a date but ended up dancing with 4 other guys (srsly, all ya gotta do is look bored and not be in a group. o: ) and I went to two of the lessons as well, but it turned out that my date and a few other guys I danced with had to re-teach me which they didn't seem to mind too much of.
I went with friends, but whenever I was at one of the dances I managed to meet some lovely lady.
OP - it is as easy as just saying hello, nine times out of ten. Hell, I asked a girl who I had never spoken to before to B&W by asking her what her favorite color was, and then following up by asking her. You can be a weirdo here- people get you for it.
Yea, i was feeling rely down too on Monday. It was later in the day when they had started shutting everything down, and all my new friends had left :'(
But i got threw it and attempted to make the best of it javascript:void(0);
There were so many girls just sitting along the wall of the B&W while guys sat along their wall...come on people! I'm stuck working the whole time, what's your excuse? =P
Quote from: trooper715 on May 27, 2009, 08:56:36 PM
There were so many girls just sitting along the wall of the B&W while guys sat along their wall...come on people! I'm stuck working the whole time, what's your excuse? =P
Excuse? i dont need one, i danced with alllllll the ladies :P
Lucky you. I spent half an hour just staring at two doors because we thought people were going in and out of them. :'(
I did kind of do a little silly boogie dance thingy with a girl in a pretty dress who was resting by the door. ^^
The night was saved when Liquid said he could handle the entrance by himself and I got to take pictures of the Guests of Honor dancing all night. =D
But yeah, standing around staring at the doors, I was counting the number of ladies sitting around vs the number of gents...odds were definitely in the guys' favor. Wish I had time to take the dance lessons and relax for a bit....well, maybe if they end up holding classes on Day 0 next year.
Ray sometimes gets nervous trying to say hi to people that he finds to be cute. What if he scares him/her away?
Quote from: G.S. LXVIII on May 28, 2009, 02:33:48 AM
Ray sometimes gets nervous trying to say hi to people that he finds to be cute. What if he scares him/her away?
Heh cmon, nothing ventured, nothin' gained.
Did you check out Nerd Courting or any of the other panels like that?
Quote from: trooper715 on May 26, 2009, 01:38:10 PM
And yes, XpHoBiaX is very, very recognizable. I only saw one or two odd pictures from you on the forums, but every time I passed by, I thought "Hey, I know that person. They're on the forums". Except for about the 20th time I passed by at which point I thought, "Hey, I know that person. I really need to stop thinking the same things in my head over and over."
You have no idea how many times I was told that. XD~! I am FAMOUS! Er *coughcough?*
TOLD YOU I WOULD INVADE YOUR SUBCONCIOUS!!!!!!!! :P
Kinda but I can't let it last forever. All I can do is go into hibernation until the next con. *Starts building nest* XD
I was a li'l lonely at the con and I hugged group of people also
I was pretty lonely on Sunday. My friends had gone to a school event, and I was too scared to talk to some really nice cosplayers I met (I was cosplaying from the same series) because they seemed a bit busy. I really wish I had, though. I don't think I would have regretted it. But when my ride was coming, I ran to them and asked them all for a hug, and they all jumped up to hug me. I guess my Fanime had a happy ending :) However, I left super early and didn't go to the B&W Ball D:
I was very sad and depressed. I had no one any of the days of the conventions. But I had fun with the people I met, I didn't want it to end. I'm a very shy guy and usually can't find people with my interest. Even with all those people who I knew loved anime, I was too shy to say his too much, luckily I started making peper signs and that worked. Now it's over and I can't do that, guess I'm still depressed.
Bit of advice for guys wanting to dance at the black and white ball: almost every girl sitting along the wall went there because she wanted some guy to walk up, smile, tell her she's adorable, and tell her he'd be honored if she'd dance with him.
BE THAT GUY.
A lot of guys tell me they don't approach me because I'm pretty... lame. I don't care if I'm pretty or ugly, I still wanna be danced with. I love nerds. I want to dance with ALL of them. C'mon guys, let the balls drop and be some lonely girl's prince charming for a dance... or the night!
hello hello long time no see y'all
I work every wekend so i'm not as lonely. Only bussy.>_>
I get the blues whenever I finish an Anime or Manga :(
oh me too!!! whenever i finish a series, i get really nostalgic...
Quote from: michiko nakano on August 16, 2009, 05:14:52 PM
Bit of advice for guys wanting to dance at the black and white ball: almost every girl sitting along the wall went there because she wanted some guy to walk up, smile, tell her she's adorable, and tell her he'd be honored if she'd dance with him.
BE THAT GUY.
A lot of guys tell me they don't approach me because I'm pretty... bullshit. I don't care if I'm pretty or ugly, I still wanna be danced with. I love nerds. I want to dance with ALL of them. C'mon guys, let the balls drop and be some lonely girl's prince charming for a dance... or the night!
Exactly.
Quote from: Steve.Young on August 18, 2009, 03:22:57 AM
Quote from: michiko nakano on August 16, 2009, 05:14:52 PM
Bit of advice for guys wanting to dance at the black and white ball: almost every girl sitting along the wall went there because she wanted some guy to walk up, smile, tell her she's adorable, and tell her he'd be honored if she'd dance with him.
BE THAT GUY.
A lot of guys tell me they don't approach me because I'm pretty... bullshit. I don't care if I'm pretty or ugly, I still wanna be danced with. I love nerds. I want to dance with ALL of them. C'mon guys, let the balls drop and be some lonely girl's prince charming for a dance... or the night!
Exactly.
IT'S A TRAP
The girls just want you to come up to them and ask them so they can shoot you down and feel great about making you feel worthless! :-[
Well, I won't shoot you down. I will dance with anyone, hug anyone, and high five anyone. Yeah, rejection sucks. I got rejected nine times when I tried to get a prom date a couple months ago, and had to ask one of my stalkers, but even though he was my stalker it turns out he's a very sweet guy and we talked about Supersmash bros brawl most of the night when we weren't dancing.
HA!!
I hear ya OP. I missed my girlfriend the whole time. I went with like 10 people but it was not the same without her. Her nazi parents would not let her go. Next year though...
i get lonley alot as of reently not much to do in a small town... not many guys either that fit mai quaifications
Salinas isnt THAT small. :P
Why not travel around or make a gathering and some of us [me- who's usually bored] will come down and chill.
I just found out the epic-ness of the Last Airbender- that our the usual nerdy/ dorky/ random adventurer - ness. :P
I got the BLUES...NAH NAHHH NAH NAHH
Quote from: Jerry on August 21, 2009, 08:15:20 AM
Salinas isnt THAT small. :P
Why not travel around or make a gathering and some of us [me- who's usually bored] will come down and chill.
I just found out the epic-ness of the Last Airbender- that our the usual nerdy/ dorky/ random adventurer - ness. :P
great idea glad i thought of it :P
Salinas is small it sucks when you live here
well, depending on your situation- you could always make a plan to move.
Or find internet friends that would be willing to travel or have adventures in your town.
I hear food, video games, or single cute girls is a good way to bribe me. :D
[ not necessarily in that order mind you ] :P LoL
JERRRRY you should come to the Salinas Gatherings when ever the Bay area people come to visit us
>w< yes there are single girls here (me included) and food(yummy curry) and video games (for that we go to shinsengumis house)
I would have aimlessly wondered around but the peoples I came up with were in so much in a rush I really didn't really get the opportunity to do so. Hopefully I will actually have enough costumes for the entire weekend so I have an excuse to wonder around on Monday.