Things in the Single Universe.

BrightHeart76 · February 16, 2009, 10:41:28 AM

Quote from: questionette on February 15, 2009, 10:45:48 PM
Quote from: BrightHeart76 on February 15, 2009, 09:46:48 PM
OK single stuff.

I am working on being comfortable with who I am. Socially, physically and emotionally I don't want to have to rely on someone else to feel ok with myself. However, if I find someone I hope they can accept that I'm still working on myself. (OK that sounds really pathetic, but I really hope you understand what I'm saying.)

On the up side being single is nice sometimes. As stated before I get the bed all too myself (Queen size thank you very much), I decide what I want for dinner every night, the t.v. is totally mine to control and if I'm in a withcy mood I can just curl up on the couch and be a witch without worrying that anyone is going to be upset. ;)

Wow this post pretty much laid out how I feel toward being single. I like it, I like being alone more than having to worry about what someone else thinks/feels. I had a valentine this year, but I honestly like it better when I don't, as shit as that sounds lol. I hate gift pressure! It's like going out to a nondescript location and not knowing how to dress. Ugh!

LOL. At the same time though, I wouldn't mind having someone else to help keep my bed warm, I like to cook for other people (it feels silly to cook for just me when I could microwave something just as easy), I like watching t.v. with someone who understands my sense of humor and it'd be nice to have someone help me deal with my witchiness or to tell me to just get over myself. :D

I love giving gifts, not so good at recieving them. I always take it as a challenge if I'm buying gifts for someone I hardly know. Buying gifts for people I care about it tougher, but more rewarding when they enjoy the gift. :D

What I'm really saying is Single is a part of who I am right now, for the good and the bad. I'd love for that to change some time, but for now I'm comfortable with it. I get lonely, I get sad and sometimes I just wish I had a man. However, I have friends and I have people who care and I have a cat that is currently trying to sleep on my shoulder. Things could be a lot worse.

mDuo13 · February 16, 2009, 11:40:29 AM

I enjoyed being single this Valentine's Day, as well. I rejoiced over not having to stress about buying gifts, and sat back by myself to watch some anime. It was good times.

XpHoBiaX · February 16, 2009, 03:08:02 PM

Quote
Unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egoistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromises.

So that is probably WHY I am single. lol Oh well.

Jun-Watarase · February 16, 2009, 03:51:09 PM

Quote from: XpHoBiaX on February 16, 2009, 03:08:02 PM
Quote
Unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egoistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromises.

So that is probably WHY I am single. lol Oh well.

I'm born in the same month as you. It's not any reason why you should be single-- you just haven't met someone you feel compatible with, yet. All sorts of people can get into relationships-- you're just not the type of person who would lower their standards for the sake of being with someone for the sake of a relationship... and tons of people seem to do that.

There are good things and bad things about both being single, and in a relationship. People often have the thought that being in a relationship is better than being single, even though it may not be necessarily true. If you want to be single, choose to be single. If you want to be in a relationship, search for one that you can be happy in.

Pros and cons. While I admire the optimistic outlook in the posts on being single, neither is better or worse on their own. They all measure up differently, and either or may make you happier. Some people want to experience love and having a partner, some people would prefer to be solitary and make all their moves in their life without romance distracting them. It just depends on the person.

Pros and cons, etc. Ranting.

Sorry but you are not allowed to view spoiler contents.

XpHoBiaX · February 16, 2009, 09:34:46 PM

I am going to try and move my ass out of the country. Maybe my opinion will change when I am back in the city. The country does not suit me at all. I think your enviroment heavily influences how you feel towards people. If it's a crap ass enviroment, you'll not only feel crappy, but think everyone is crappy too.

I stay firm though, on what I marked in red in that statement. Mostly becuase that is who I am. @_@
I wish I was simple.

wryyyyyyy?
lol

Jerry · February 17, 2009, 09:09:53 AM

*oops matrix error* meant to post on a different thread. [brain is not awake just yet.]

but on a random note. apparently my vday was spent helping a friend move.

then later we ended up having food @ Hooters. [yes again.] i swear my buddy is trying to hook me up with a hooters girl. :D

as if they could handle a guy like me. ;)

Gatsby · February 17, 2009, 09:14:59 AM

Even though I have a girlfriend I ended up spending the day with my psychology book cradled in my arms. -_-

LordKefka · February 17, 2009, 09:15:14 AM

Quote from: Jerry on February 17, 2009, 09:09:53 AM
*oops matrix error* meant to post on a different thread. [brain is not awake just yet.]

but on a random note. apparently my vday was spent helping a friend move.

then later we ended up having food @ Hooters. [yes again.] i swear my buddy is trying to hook me up with a hooters girl. :D

as if they could handle a guy like me. ;)

Someone phailed hard... xD

Steve.Young · February 17, 2009, 09:20:55 AM

Quote from: Darth_Diclonius on February 17, 2009, 09:14:59 AM
Even though I have a girlfriend I ended up spending the day with my psychology book cradled in my arms. -_-

Someone failed harder...

Gatsby · February 17, 2009, 09:24:33 AM

Quote from: Steve.Young on February 17, 2009, 09:20:55 AM
Quote from: Darth_Diclonius on February 17, 2009, 09:14:59 AM
Even though I have a girlfriend I ended up spending the day with my psychology book cradled in my arms. -_-

Someone failed harder...

H

Quote from: Steve.Young on February 17, 2009, 09:20:55 AM
Quote from: Darth_Diclonius on February 17, 2009, 09:14:59 AM
Even though I have a girlfriend I ended up spending the day with my psychology book cradled in my arms. -_-

Someone failed harder...

Nah she lives in Washington so I was just being dramatic. :P

Kazuko · February 17, 2009, 02:51:43 PM

wahoo! Single things

Well at first I used to be a person that never liked to be single, I was one of thoes oh someone has to make me feel pretty kinda deals. Well where I spent my teen years and all that jazz guys were pretty shallow like they wanted skinny hot chicks so they can have some sort of trophy gal. Girls were pretty much the same I mean pffft teens in Tracy are shallow :U well most of them anyway, I had some cool friends though.

Anyway I like being single at the moment especially since im Living in SF and going to USF for school it requires alot of my time and I want to get my stuff done as much as I can. Im also accepting myself for who I am and loving my body because alot of my confidence was on how i looked, I admit im chubby and I used to think "oh guys hate chubby girls blah blah blah" and I hated it, it was one of the reasons in 9th grade I had an eating disorder. Now I just enjoy being chubby though I try to keep myself healthy and exercise when I can. Though I will admit I love to get my fat ass on when I can :U haha oh sweets you are my one true love. So back to working on myself I am trying to be more stable emotionally especially after two breakups and my recent one in January. Im trying to get that thick skin when it comes to thoes things and to gain my confidence. I mean I get to start a new life in the city and enjoy the splendors I dont really need a man to tell me im pretty or tell me he loves me. I can do that myself and enjoy my independance for a while, though I do miss the whole tingly sensation of being in a relationship, the dates and the cupcaking haha I can admit that but for now eh if it happens it happens, not to worried about that.

XpHoBiaX · February 17, 2009, 03:29:32 PM

I wish I could get into the city again. I'd feel a lot more useful there. Not too mention I'd have no problem doing what I want to do there. I hate cow country. Sorry, but it's waaaaay to drab and no one wants to do anything but waste their life on welfare.

I won't have to worry about being alone either, becuase I know there are other people like me in the city I could easily make friends with.

I'll just stay away from dating for a while, though.

Jerry · February 17, 2009, 04:37:00 PM

dating is over-rated, its all about having good friends.

then from good friendships you'll meet someone worth to date.

like i know any better :P

XpHoBiaX · February 17, 2009, 09:05:08 PM

Quote from: Jerry on February 17, 2009, 04:37:00 PM
dating is over-rated, its all about having good friends.

then from good friendships you'll meet someone worth to date.

like i know any better :P

Don't have good friends, let alone any friends out here. So's I fail. XD
Although, I am working on getting back to where I can meet and make new good friends.